I’ve come back to a realisation recently that F All Matters….. And by that I mean, all the F’s matter. Family and Friends.
We get so called up in our day to day lives, false priority after false priority take up our time and we can often get lost in what really matters. What we often need to do is gain a perspective on life and where we should be focusing our attentions.
I have a couple of techniques I use to try and maintain perspective that you may find useful:
- Slightly morbid, but think about who you want at your funeral and what you want them to say about you. Is that your arsehole boss saying how obedient you were? I doubt it. Is it the random lady at the supermarket who gave you a dirty look for accidentally bumping into her? Of course not. It is your closest friends and family and you probably want them to be saying you were there for them when they needed them. Simple when you think about it.
- In each instance, ask yourself will this matter in a years time? In the majority of cases, 12 months from now whatever you are going through is likely to be a distant memory.
In most of these situations, what you will find is the only things that matter boil down to family and friends, and they are the people you need to worry about in life. Everything else is just a distraction and doesn’t really matter when you consider things in this context.
Family have known you since you were born. Have seen you grow, mature, and been there for you in your darkest moments. They will listen to you, care for you, love you, hell they can even act as a loan guarantor should you need them.
Friends have been with you in a different way. Through the fun times, through the mischief, when you had that psycho girlfriend….. They know more of your darkest secrets and will keep them for you, even if they make fun of you for them at every opportunity. Friends are family without the bloodline.
Maybe these two tips will help you gain perspective too, but if not, focus on the 2 F’s and you won’t go far wrong.